Yes to all of this! If everyone were to know the possibility of a more expansive version of the term ‘family’ then the world would be a better place. I’ve learned so much more about family and community from being separated than I did when I was in a lonely, isolated marriage unit.
You're so right to conflate family and community, similar values, rather than family as some kind of isolated judgmental defensive state against the rest of the world
I just finished James Patterson's book about the Kennedys yesterday and this exact thought struck me throughout. Any woman unfortunately enough to come into contact with them - and therevwere many - was either abused, gaslit, forved into submission or humiliated - sometimes all four. How those horrible men, with their intergenerational misogyny and the matriarchs with their internalised misogyny could be held up as a example of anything positive is sickening. Broken is not the word.
Absolutely mad when you start to think of it. I felt like so much of the stuff I was reading I already knew, and yet the glamour or whatever perseveres in maintaining the idea of the Kennedys as aspirational in some way
Yes to all of this! If everyone were to know the possibility of a more expansive version of the term ‘family’ then the world would be a better place. I’ve learned so much more about family and community from being separated than I did when I was in a lonely, isolated marriage unit.
You're so right to conflate family and community, similar values, rather than family as some kind of isolated judgmental defensive state against the rest of the world
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I just finished James Patterson's book about the Kennedys yesterday and this exact thought struck me throughout. Any woman unfortunately enough to come into contact with them - and therevwere many - was either abused, gaslit, forved into submission or humiliated - sometimes all four. How those horrible men, with their intergenerational misogyny and the matriarchs with their internalised misogyny could be held up as a example of anything positive is sickening. Broken is not the word.
Absolutely mad when you start to think of it. I felt like so much of the stuff I was reading I already knew, and yet the glamour or whatever perseveres in maintaining the idea of the Kennedys as aspirational in some way
Yes, exactly! They had such an aura about them. Very Hello! magazine- esque. Very gross though when you stop and think!
Fuck the fucking head-tilters and YES to community and found family!