My daughter is ten tomorrow

On unattuning from your kids, and trying to be a chill cat owner

One of the wisest women I know recently told me something about parenting. You want to be attuned to your child. But not too attuned. In fact, it’s very good for everyone involved, parent and child, if you are sometimes very much unattuned.

I told a friend this and she said, ‘oh good, because being unattuned to my children whenever possible is basically …